How to benefit people through your business. Sati Casanova: “I want to benefit as many people as possible. Why does the idea of ​​usefulness to the world arise?

You can often hear the following words: “He is of no use to anyone.” And indeed, that in modern understanding does it mean to be beneficial? Go all out at work? Take care of your family? Help acquaintances and friends? Perhaps this is where we should end the list.

But there is also the environment. She helps people invisibly. And it is worth talking about its benefits for humans, as well as about human benefits for the environment and others separately.

Help your neighbor

Where does the concept of “benefit” begin? With help. And this is not only about helping colleagues, neighbors and friends. This is helping society as a whole. Someone will be surprised: “What nonsense?” How can one person benefit society? This is unrealistic.

Not at all. We extended a helping hand to a stranger. He, in turn, helped another person. And that one to the next one. And so a “lump” of human mutual assistance grows. But this is true, to put it very exaggeratedly.

We do not pollute nature

How to benefit society? Respect for the environment. We all love to go outdoors. Sit in the forest, eat barbecue and chat with friends. However, not everyone then cleans up the garbage left in this forest. And other people go and see a garbage dump. Meanwhile, some waste requires a large amount of time to decompose. For example, a glass bottle takes about 1000 years to decompose. And plastic - from 500 to 1000 years. The plastic bag familiar to all of us has a “self-disposal” period of 500 to 1000 years.

The fastest decomposing waste is food waste. In second place is paper, in third place are cigarette butts.

Therefore, before leaving your waste on earth after a feast, it is worth thinking about the fact that it will be seen by more than one generation.

Let's save the forest

Now there is active deforestation due to the huge volumes of residential development. It seems that people have begun to forget how the forest benefits humanity. Coniferous forests have been proven to be excellent air purifiers. Why do people who have the opportunity to purchase a cottage in coniferous forest, are they happy to implement it? Because the air in it contains only 300 bacteria. In contrast to the urban one, which exceeds all permissible standards.

In general, green plants have the greatest benefits. They are responsible for our oxygen, without which people simply cannot live. It is worth thinking about the fact that the more green spaces and forests are destroyed, the fewer “respiratory apparatus” assistants a person has.

Birds are wonderful

What benefits do birds bring? Often we believe that they cause only harm. Pigeons spread diseases, for example. In fact, both forest birds and domestic birds are part of ecological system, without which it will not be able to function fully.

Forest birds clean their habitat by destroying insect pests. This is especially obvious at the time the chicks appear, when caring parents feed their babies with caterpillars and worms.

Woodpecker is the doctor of the forest. True, this healer destroys conifers in considerable quantities. More precisely, conifer seeds.

Jays, nutcrackers and blackbirds, on the contrary, distribute seeds. They can be called foresters, because thanks to these birds the forest continues to grow.

And the decoration of the forest is the nightingale? This is the one who creates a wonderful atmosphere in the forest lands with his wonderful singing.

As for poultry, they can benefit humans. And they perform their function. From them people get eggs, meat and fluff.

Forest animals

How do animals benefit plants and people? Let's look at the food chain.

It is known that there are several links in food chain. The very first thing is producers, or autotrophs. They create organic matter. These include grass, plants and mushrooms.

The second link is herbivorous animals. They are called primary consumers. They feed on autotrophs.

The third link in the food chain is secondary consumers, or predators. For example, snakes.

The fourth link is secondary predators, or tertiary consumers. A living example is the owl, which is capable of eating a hare.

And the fifth link is apex predators. Large birds and animals that can eat primary, secondary and tertiary consumers.

When an animal dies, its body turns into soil for the growth of plants and grass. Thus, everything is natural.

Pets

How can pets benefit you? They primarily serve as a source of food for humans. We eat meat that comes from pigs, cows, sheep, etc. People consume milk that comes from cows or goats.

The second point is clothing. Animal wool and skin are used to make clothes that people wear.

And the third stage is positive emotions. A cat or dog in an urban environment can give a lot of positive emotions. In village life, a cat helps get rid of mice and rats; a dog can be useful in hunting, for example.

Nature is man's home. People consider themselves the rulers of all living things, but this is far from the case. Environment gives us air, nutrition and positive emotions.

Conclusion

What are the main aspects of the article?

1. The forest is a source of oxygen on earth.
2. Birds help in the fight against forest pests. Poultry is a source of food for humans.
3. Each forest animal is a link in the food chain. One link will fall out and the chain will fall apart.
4. Pets feed and clothe people. In addition, they carry positive influence in a psychological aspect.

There is such a wonderful phrase: “Man, don’t spit on nature. You have to live in it.” It is worth listening to these words before it is too late, and treating our environment more carefully.

Sati Casanova: “I want to be useful as possible more people"

— Sati, please tell us how you came to vegetarianism?

I came to vegetarianism gradually, starting my immersion in a new culture for me with yoga classes. This was seven years ago. I had some back pain and was advised to do yoga. I started with Ashtanga yoga and practiced it very actively - I’m a stubborn girl, if I need something, then... Simultaneously with the practice, I read spiritual literature, and gradually the understanding of yoga came: yes, this is a whole path, philosophy! The first book for me was the book “The Heart of Yoga” by T. Desikachar. I learned about the main principle - ahimsa (non-violence). I learned what yama, niyama, and karma are. I remember I had an excellent yogini teacher, to whom I want to express my gratitude. Her name is Alena Naasan. She still teaches at many yoga centers. This is an angel! She was the one who instilled in me a love for yoga. She explained everything with such trepidation and helped me navigate.

Back then I still ate meat. You know, I was born and raised in the Caucasus. And there is a very beautiful culture of feasts with ancient traditions that are still carefully observed. One of the traditions is to serve meat to the table. Meat is an obligatory dish at a Caucasian feast. And although in Moscow I could not eat meat for six months, returning to my homeland, I was somehow tempted, listening to my father’s logical arguments: “How can this be? You are going against nature. You were born in this region and you cannot help but eat the foods you were raised on. This is wrong! Then I could still be broken. I ate a piece of meat, but then I suffered for three days, because my body was already weaned from meat.

Since then I haven't eaten meat. My parents didn’t understand me right away, but they understood. They respect my choice, and I am very grateful to them for that. Mom cooks vegetarian dishes for me. And if usually one type of cheese is served at the table, then when I arrive there are three or four of them, because cheese is my everything.

For a long time I could not stop eating fish. I thought: “There won’t be anything left for me to eat!” What then is there? Maybe pasta, pasta? But this is impossible, since there is no way for me to get better” (laughs). The answer came like this. I met the singer Marina Devyatova. She is already a second generation vegetarian and does not know what animal food is. She and I ended up at the same feast, where she amazed me with her meekness. When I used to realize that I had nothing to eat, I was so angry! Thanks to her, I learned that you can’t go hungry at any feast. Potatoes, cheese, steamed vegetables - this is what can be found in any kitchen. You can always eat raw vegetables, although eating them in winter is a little... cold.

There was another test. At some point I started having problems with my vocal cords, and for a singer this is a disaster. At that moment different people They tried to convince me that the cause of the problem was my refusal to eat meat. They explained that due to the lack of meat in my diet, my hemoglobin level and general tone had decreased. I talked with Tatyana Shamanina from the Guru Groove Foundation group (Tatiana is a vegetarian) and she said that after giving up animal food she began to sing much better and cleaner, the sound became flying, sparkling. And I realized that all health problems are purely psychosomatic. Subsequently, I discovered the nature of my illness vocal cords, vegetarianism has nothing to do with it. But that's another story.

How do you feel after giving up animal foods?

I had a period when I literally re-engaged in spiritual practices and did not receive any grounding. It was like I was carried away. I reasoned like this: “People are rude creatures, they smoke, drink and swear. I’d rather stay upstairs...” I think many people have gone through this. And suddenly I wanted coffee. Although it doesn’t suit me - it makes me feel bad physically, but energetically it’s a different matter. At that time, a grounding element was needed. I am still a little attached to coffee, chocolate, and Pu-erh tea. Of course, it is difficult to resist old habits of the body and the influence of society. But I pray that I can handle this with dignity, that I still have the same respect for people who still eat meat, and that I don't elevate myself as a good person. Everyone has their own choice. You should never force or judge anyone.

Now I am a vegetarian with all my heart, with all my being. I fully accept the principle of ahimsa. My vegetarianism today is more organic and harmonious than even a year ago.

- Has vegetarianism ceased to be militant?

Yes, it is not at all militant! Now I understand that everywhere: in any society, in any outback, I can find food for myself. And I'm calm. I understand that the cult of food that I had before is not entirely healthy. I understand that food is only a small part of life. An important part, but not worth much attention. Food must go from being a cult to becoming a culture.

- Sati, tell me, do you cook yourself?

Yes, I really like to cook. True, I rarely do this. Currently my cooking is limited to steamed vegetables using a mixture of Indian spices and ghee. In cafes, vegetarian dishes sometimes turn out somewhat bland. When I cook, I cook deliciously!

- So, the way you cook at home, they can’t cook vegetables in a cafe?

They can't. But the most important point lies in the energy of the cooked food. I feel more and more how energy the food is imbued with. It is known that when food is cooked over a fire, it most strongly absorbs the thoughts of the one who cooks. Even those who simply serve affect the quality. Do you believe it? Due to this, I want to eat less and less public places. I usually go where I know the chef. I know that Jagannath employs understanding people. There is also the Moscow cafe “Ganga”, where you can find praying food. I would like to recommend the wonderful Armenian restaurant Gayane's in Moscow to vegetarians. Do you know how many vegetarian dishes there are in Armenian cuisine?

So many! For example, I love Karabakh flatbreads made from unleavened dough with cheese and herbs, cooked in the tandoor. What a taste of spinach pie! For the owner of this restaurant, her work is her home, and I know how much warmth and love she brings there. The cook is also a very warm, soulful woman, like all mothers in the Caucasus. Even if there is passion in such food, there will be a lot of love in it.

Sati, it seems interesting to me that your vegetarianism is not even a belief, but something deeper, something identical to your nature...

Yes, that's true. Now it is. Especially after India. This country literally blew my mind. I was in Chennai and talked to local residents and went diving. Several times I met the sunrise on the ocean shore. It was a real connection with nature, people and culture. I want to cry with joy that I got to know India.

- Yes, truly holy places have this property.

Right. Somehow I accidentally got to attend a service in a small church, which made a great impression. I usually go to all churches - it doesn’t matter to me what denomination it belongs to. The priest in that church amazed me with his simplicity, goodwill and the amazing atmosphere he created. I was able to visit a few more temples in Chennai. The biggest impression on me was made by the most modest of them - the Sai Baba Temple.

And what amazing restaurants there are in India! You take the menu and see two pages of non-vegetarian dishes and twenty-two of vegetarian ones. True, everything there is very spicy, but at the same time incredibly tasty.

One of my friends became a vegetarian just after he tried delicious vegetarian food in India.

Understand! For me, it's not just about taste. If you listen to yourself, you will notice that after eating rough animal food, even fish, completely different thoughts are born. Of course, this does not mean that vegetarianism can make a person a saint or simply enlightened. Undoubtedly, spiritual work must take its course. But it becomes much easier if you exclude the factors that bend you to the ground. Vegetarianism is first and foremost about helping yourself. If you want to go fast, why eat something that weighs you down? Sometimes on business you have to communicate with energetically heavy people. Then you need to use known grounding means. Recently, I have discovered that it is not at all necessary to consume things that poison the body. For example, sport is a very good grounding activity. Food helps, even vegetarian food, for example, fried cheese. There is yoga that also helps with this - Ashtanga yoga, yoga-23.

- Is yoga your daily practice today?

Yes, there is a set of exercises from the grounding group that I perform regularly.

Sati, how, with such an intense life schedule, do you manage to find time for self-development and such a difficult balance between earth and sky?

It's really not easy. The way you think is very important - at every moment. The books you read are also important.

- By the way, what are you reading now?

Now I’m reading the legendary book by R. Sharma “The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari.” This is a great book! Although mostly I don’t read it, but listen to it when I go about my daily activities.

- Is there anything that you can advise specifically to women to maintain balance?

I really like yoga. I think it suits everyone. For example, Ashtanga is also useful for fragile women - it helps strengthen the body and make it stronger. I practiced it for three years. Our body is the same temple, our house. If it is excessively fragile, the person is very vulnerable in life. The body is like a child. It always thanks you for your care and love. I just recently started treating my body this way, and it makes me very happy. When you ignore the needs of the body for a long time, constantly forcing it to do what is unusual for it - you sleep little, eat little, drink coffee - then sooner or later it will rebel and demand all your attention.

If yoga is not enough for someone, I highly recommend swimming. Again, it suits women very well. This is, firstly, beneficial contact with water, and secondly, when swimming, all muscle groups are involved. I also run in the morning, although I agree that running is not for everyone. While running I listen to music. When else will I be able to listen to music for 30-40 minutes straight?!

- Do you manage to keep the daily routine?

You have to - life forces you. But I feel good.

- How nice to hear that! There are so few people who feel good.

The way of thinking is very important. Recently I realized that negative thoughts and words, complaints, dissatisfaction do not improve health in any way, but just the opposite. You also burden other people with your problems, and all because you yourself cannot cope with your thoughts. The “help yourself” principle is absolute. Usually, instead of helping yourself, you also stress out your friends.

You know, I try to surround myself with people who think positively just like me. I also really value and appreciate everyone. I dream of creating a team of dedicated people, where everyone will be in their place and adore what they will do. There are a lot of unhappy people around who are constantly forced to compromise with themselves, to betray themselves in some way, to step over themselves.

I believe that you need to treat yourself with care, like a mother treats her child. There are things that offend a person, offend this internally pure child. For example, promiscuous sex life. Unfortunately, this aspect is not developed in our culture - there is no decent culture of relations between men and women that would be instilled from childhood. Sexual life outside of marriage, civil marriage, which is so popular now, is all very bad and harmful for a woman.

It seems that the moment of awareness is important in this matter. It’s one thing when such chaste behavior comes from prohibitions, and quite another when it comes from a wise and careful attitude towards oneself.

Yes, there are very strong prohibitions in the Caucasus. And it is precisely there that the sexual behavior of boys and girls, who outwardly look very decent, sometimes takes on quite ugly forms. Moreover, this hypocrisy comes from a complete misunderstanding of oneself, one’s nature.

Many people, for example, believe that sex is necessary for health. Actually this is not true. The body, both male and female, does not need this. Of course, this is a rather precarious position in modern world, offering so many temptations and enticements. But I perceive life as a school, where you need to learn to pass every test with dignity.

- So for you life is a test of something, learning something?

Yes, testing, learning, discovery, joy, surprise, pleasure, creation - all this can be placed under one universal concept - love. I'm in the right place. There is such a concept as “level of possession of space.” I have such a large possession of space that I don’t know how long I will be enough. I generate such large-scale projects that sometimes it becomes scary. However, I understand that I wouldn’t want to do anything less. For example, she is currently busy establishing a charitable foundation. It will be called the “Fund for Social and Creative Initiatives.” From social sphere I am particularly attracted to the topic of ecology. Three years ago I created the project “No Garbage!” I created it easily, playfully, as such projects should probably be created. Several times we got together and picked up trash in the parks ourselves. Artists joined us. For example, last year there were Yana Rudkovskaya, Evgeni Plushenko, Dima Bilan. This year we plan to hold the event more widely and loudly so that many people have the opportunity to join.

- How do you find time for everything?

Finding time for such projects is a matter of priorities. We can always be busy with something. Can be carried out free time as usual, for example, with a friend over a cup of chocolate. Or you can do something really useful. It is important to think about the benefits of what you are doing: are you benefiting one person or a large number people? Or maybe you benefit the entire planet, all of humanity? I prefer the latter. Now I'm worried about whether I will have to be torn between social activities and creativity.

- Why do you need this?

Yesterday I attended a performance by the legendary Cirque Du Soleil. Presented a new show dedicated to Michael Jackson. He himself was not really there, but his presence was very noticeable. In one evening, circus performers made seven thousand people happy. And they held seven such performances in Moscow. Total forty nine thousand happy people in a week! I think this is great! As I looked at them, I prayed that I would do something as beautiful as this, that would embrace maximum quantity people and fill them with a new understanding of themselves and the world.

- Sati, please tell us more about the foundation.

The foundation has several areas of activity. One of them is identifying talents among the younger generation and providing all possible support for gifted children. The Foundation has the resources to develop unique programs aimed at raising the awareness of children and youth in all areas of life. It's about about the future. Talented children in the future may take positions of leadership, and the kind of old age that awaits us will depend on them. That is why we plan to work primarily with children and youth.

Another direction is the popularization of national culture in the form in which it has been preserved. It is good if children are brought up in the spirit of the culture of their people, on the ethical code preserved in the culture of every nation. What if not? Culture, including ethnic culture, is what gives humanity today a chance to survive. One of the global goals of the foundation is to instill in the younger generation a sense of national pride, love for their culture and respect for other cultures.

Our first specific task is to organize a festival of children's and youth creativity with an emphasis on ethnicity. We want the festival to become a demonstration of the beauty of ethnic culture, a unifying principle, an impetus for the revival of folk culture and good relations between peoples. We are interested in any options for performing original ethnic material in different types arts: music, vocals, choreography, fine and decorative arts, even culinary arts. During the festival we plan to organize charity auctions and fairs where indigenous people will be able to present their handicrafts. After all, now everything is so mechanized. There is no life at all in modern products! Same products self made so popular now because they have life, there is love. We plan that the festival will travel throughout Russia from region to region. Let's start with the most problematic area - the Caucasus. Now is an amazing time. People become more sensitive - to energies, to thoughts. Spiritual practices have literally become fashionable. We just want to contribute to this general processes. We can also help people in the regions earn at least a little money. Although, first of all, such fairs are about communication.

That is, on the one hand, this is the revelation of the uniqueness of each culture, and on the other, unification into a single cultural family?

Yes, exactly. For example, a festival in the Caucasus will help unite the Caucasian peoples. There are already about twenty nationalities living in my native Kabardino-Balkaria alone! And so it is in every region. You come to such a recreated cultural world, to such a town and think: “Wow! This is all my country!”

- What else will the fund do?

The third direction of the foundation's work is environmental. Environmental issues are more relevant now than ever. Humanity is causing irreparable harm to the planet. And something needs to be done about this. Each of us can change something simply by clearing the space around us. When everything around you is clean, you become more stable. Do you agree? Whatever we can do in this physical universe, we will do.

We are now assembling a strong team for the fund. These must be people who are ready to work. And work not for the sake of a fee. So we are waiting for like-minded people. Join us!

- Do you want to return to people what they have forgotten?

Nowadays the study of Vedic culture - the Vedas, the Upanishads - is very popular. Recently, interest in the Slavic Vedas has awakened. This is because it is primordial knowledge that gives power. All cultural practices of antiquity - dancing, singing - had a deep meaning, healing power, helped people feel connected to the earth, to nature, and to each other. Then we lost it, now we really miss it. Now, discovering this ancient knowledge for ourselves, we are surprised to discover that, for example, it is possible to engage in self-healing. I am convinced that globalization and urbanization do not have anything good, since they destroy man’s connection with nature, with his origins. We can counter this only by restoring the foundation, that is, the traditions of peoples, folk culture. This doesn't mean I'm against the iPhone. I just want to use it while sitting in lotus position on the edge of the forest. And it seems to me that now is such an amazing time when this is really possible.

Often people get stuck in one esoteric idea. It lies in the fact that you must benefit the world. You must constantly ask yourself what you have done that is useful. It’s just not clear what exactly needs to be done.

How can we benefit the world?

Join Greenpeace, collect plastic, don't throw batteries in the trash. What to do? What specific actions should be taken on my part?
For example, there is a boiler room opposite my house. This is where the emissions come from. Should I try to close this boiler room or offer people other heating methods?
Perhaps some of you are already stuck in this idea that you need to be very useful to the world, and then the world will thank you. Doesn't seem like a bad idea. But benefit in general is a relative concept.
Let's think about the future. Imagine yourself in 3 years. At that time, you took maximum care of the world, did not litter, were positive example for people and so on. Think about how much you want to move into such a future, rate it on a scale of ten.
And imagine another option - for the next three years you take care of your loved ones. Maybe not even about everyone, since there is not enough strength for everyone. And now, after 3 years, something has truly changed, firstly, in your life and in the lives of people close to you.
In which future will there be more energy - where you were useful to the world or where you were useful to the three people closest to you? Where will there be more power? I think the answer is obvious.

We often try to benefit the world, some unknown strangers. But at the same time, we forget about the most important people, on whom we can rely in difficult times and with whom we want to share happy moments.

Why does the idea of ​​being useful to the world arise?

Everyone wants to feel needed, to contribute to some important cause. Sometimes people even choose a profession out of a desire to be useful to society(doctors, teachers, police officers, etc.). But not everyone has an idea of ​​their capabilities.
Everyone goes through a period of being lost when they don’t know what they want to do. At such moments, you just need to start doing what you can. If you can help your loved ones - help, you can be useful to yourself - relax, meet with friends, take care of your health.
There is also one extreme thought about the benefit of the world. Some people believe that people are just carriers of genes, that is, simply biological material. That is, in essence, your benefit to the world will be in preserving biomaterial in a healthy form, suitable for reproduction and continuation.

Whatever idea you are considering, it is better to start with yourself. Make your life useful at least for yourself and the people close to you. That is, do something that will result in a physical or moral transformation for the better.

I am 24 years old, but I no longer want to live and wake up in the morning, I have been deeply depressed for the last 5 years. There were suicide attempts, but I was always, one might say, stopped in last moment: fear of physical pain; the thought suddenly won’t work out and everything will get worse; and also how my loved ones will survive my death. Now I simply exist, feeling deep loneliness, and I know that the “cup” will soon overflow and I will no longer be in this world. To understand me, I’ll start almost from the beginning. I was born normally physically and psychologically healthy and had a very beautiful appearance, a lot of girls “ran” after me (here I am not exaggerating; I even remember having a nickname before I was 19 - “handsome”), I grew up cheerful, purposeful, and of course made big plans for the future. Therefore, from childhood I began to strive for a good future, namely, I graduated from school with honors, then from technical school with full honors, and entered a prestigious university in absentia. And here it is turning point. After graduating from college, I was invited to work in a very prestigious place, I of course agreed, because I thought that I was lucky, and the salary was very high. When I started working, I realized that this was not MINE (they say that a person should not live in this area - not the CLIMATE , I have the same thing, only “psychological NOT CLIMATE”), in reality they pay me money for the simple fact that I am present at work, I want to bring benefit to society and joy to people (that’s my character and that’s how I was raised) How many times have I tried myself convince but it's all useless. As a result, I began to feel depressed, I felt like I was fading away day after day. Due to depression, I had some kind of hormonal imbalance and now I’m scared to even write. At 24 years old, I have almost complete impotence. I don’t see any brightness in the future, I can’t quit my job because they pay a lot and it’s difficult to find a job in our small town. I see how happy my friends are walking around and it hurts even more. I know my girlfriend will soon leave me, only love holds her. Lately I started abusing alcohol, I was always very religious, now I don’t believe in God. In general, a complete dead end in life, nothing bright in the future. Some may think this is nonsense, but I can’t live with it. Analyzing my life, I understand that my fate gives me everything that I am most afraid of and do not want to receive. Some kind of ROCK on me((((((
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Dmitry, age: 24 / 26.12.2010

Responses:

Hello Dima!
I understand your situation perfectly. It's terrible when a person is out of place. I went through this myself. I really sympathize with you. We need to find the strength to change this. It’s good that you realized this now, and not at 40, when it would be more difficult to change something than at 20.
Something needs to change. Either your attitude towards work, or the work itself. Otherwise, it really won't lead to any good. Let the salary be small, but believe me, psychological comfort is more important when you feel needed and in demand. When your soul is calm. And you bring joy to yourself and people. You understand this yourself.
This is not a reason to drink and make yourself depressed. And the girl won't leave you. If he loves you, he won't leave you.
You will definitely succeed!
You see, life always gives us some lessons that we need to cope with with dignity. Kill yourself because of a job you don't like? What could be more stupid? So leave all these thoughts behind. Your life is more valuable than any job, even the most prestigious one.
Strength of spirit and patience to you.

Passerby, age: 27 / 12/26/2010

Dima, try going to the children's oncology center.. against the backdrop of SUCH grief, your trouble will recede for a while.. YOU WRITE that you want to be useful people, that you are paid decently... so help as much as you can to those who long to live... who are asking for help... look into their eyes, full of fear of death and hope that you can help... And maybe they will help To you...

ANNA, age: 34 / 12/26/2010

Um
It’s a very commendable thing to want to bring benefit to society and joy to people!
that's my word of honor!
only
1. I have never heard of a job where they pay “for nothing”, I think you seriously UNDERESTIMATE yourself. yourself personally and your work in particular
2. what prevents you from bringing benefit to society and joy to people OUTSIDE of work? Let’s say you wrote that you were religious, now many churches are being built, what’s stopping you from putting your hands, literally physical sense words - to the construction of one of them? There are always not enough hands there. or help lonely old people? or children in an orphanage? at the cancer center? in fact, there are a lot of places where human HELP is desperately needed. Well, it’s just REALLY needed... and you’re here because you can’t bring any benefit and joy - you came up with the idea of ​​committing suicide! and this is at a time when you are simply VERY...well, very needed!
This is just some kind of crazy wastefulness...devoid of logic and meaning! I beg you very much - stay! help those who need it.
3. about your impotence and the fact that the girl ONLY loves you... you just amazed me.
firstly impotence to be treated...
secondly...if a woman loves, such assumptions in a relationship are simply offensive to her. The only thing is, if you sit and continue to do nothing - do not get treatment, do not help people, delve into yourself, in your depression, it is quite possible that she will leave you... but not because she will stop loving you - she will simply decide that she is for you you don’t need it... since you’re not fighting for life at all.

And there is no need to drag any ROCK into this...
get together and go to people if you really want to.
and besides, you need to go to confession, to communion...
and take care of your health, both physical and spiritual
take care of yourself, Dmitry

Red, age: 31/12/26/2010

What can I tell you, Dmitry?
I don't want to feel sorry for you. I don’t even want to have fun with something...
I’m not a psychologist, but I understand that the root of your depression is simple envy. Envy. Reluctance to fight. Look at yourself - you are successful. There is a girl (who loves BTW!). But there is no brain.
Sit down and think - is everything really as bad as you describe or are you just exaggerating?
After all, all the problems that you described can’t even be called problems =)
Well, it doesn't work for you. Do you want to benefit people? http://www.greenpeace.org/russia/ru/ GREENPEACE to help you! If you want to bring something new, create!
Find another job (those who look will always find). Do not offend the girl under any circumstances! In general, it’s stupid to say “My girlfriend I know will soon leave me, only love holds her.” If he loves you, he won’t leave you until you force him to.
Look at yourself from the outside. Do you see the egoist? A weak and feeble egoist? If you see it, correct it. It is not fear or pain that gnaws at you, but envy and a lack of purpose.

Night Light-, age: 18/12/26/2010

Hello, Dmitry!
Have you ever thought that the Lord blessed you with finances for something, for some good deed, because in our life nothing happens for nothing. You don’t like work, but you can’t run away from yourself, and who will give you a guarantee? that at your next job you won’t be overcome by the same depression? Do good where you are, find a site where they ask for financial help for children and pay for someone’s operation, and your life will absolutely change, because the spiritual law of prosperity: give and it will be given to you...
Go to God, He exists and He is real and He will definitely help you. And suicide is not a solution, because what’s next is HELL and it will be forever. Isn't it scary? Think about it. God gave you talents, blessed you, and you want to throw it all in the trash? Do not anger God and appreciate what has been given to you, be grateful to God for everything.
May God bless you!

Aleana, age: 40 / 12/26/2010

How I felt she left me!(!(!(

Dmitry, age: 24/12/27/2010

Hello, Dima.
I read your story as if I were reading it to myself. I, too, was doing well until recently; by the way, I didn’t even know about this site. Also a prominent guy, an officer. There were big plans for the future. I hoped, I believed. I thought I’d meet a girl and start a family. And three months ago I contracted an incurable venous disease. At first, my head refused to accept that this had happened to me. And you know what's interesting. It was in such a situation that life manifested itself differently for me. What is important in it and what is secondary. I again remembered God, Whom I had somehow forgotten. Looked differently at those who stumbled. And now I have a choice. Either get lost mentally or fight. During this most difficult period, my parents, those closest to me, helped me and are still helping me. Faith helps me, because this is all that remains. It makes me feel better that I try to encourage other people with words, and I myself believe that God will not leave me. Praying for others and helping them helps me. Dima, look how many people are lost and depressed. Should we really add to their list? Over time, we will all die, so come on, brother, at least we will try to live our lives in such a way that when we have to stand before the Lord, we will stand calmly and with dignity. If we give up, who will help the weak? You're fine. It is clear that well-being affects potency. Don't worry about the girl, that's the kind of girl she is. In spite of fate, endure and live. There is no such thing as just black, life is also different. Help someone. These tests strengthen you. Dima, I wish you to find peace, joy, and good spirits in your soul. Happiness to you and your loved ones. You will be invited to the wedding!

Sergey, age: 27 / 28.12.2010

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